I want romance, excitement, thrills!
And I am tired of waiting for my husband of almost 16 years to make the first move, so I decided to take action. First, I searched the Internet for "Ways to spice up a marriage". Personally, I thought the advice was pretty lame and generic:
1. Go on a date. Unfortunately, my idea of a date and my husband's idea of a date differ greatly. I want to dress up and go to a restaurant with a view and live music. My husband would be happy with Denny's or microwave popcorn and an Adam Sandler D.V.D.
2. Do something nice for your spouse. I think I do nice things for him all the time. Does making dinner count? I washed his car once. Oh, I always fold his underwear, although I rarely put it away for him. I could work on that one.
3. Wear sexy lingerie. It doesn't fit anymore.
I had to think out of the box on this one. When my husband came home from work I asked him to name 3 extracurricular activities that he would like to do, thinking I could incorporate at least one of those into a surprise weekend get-a-way.
He cocked his head to the side, a sign that he was putting real thought into his answers. (My plan could actually work!) Then, he said, "Skydiving. I would really like to go skydiving again, but it's really expensive."
Okay, that was only the first one and I was definitely not doing that.
He continued. "Dirt bike riding would be fun. Yeah, dirt bike riding," he said, starting to smile.
Shit.
"And camping, I guess."
"What about beer?" I asked. "You like to drink beer, right?"
"Yeah," he said. "You could drink wine while I drink beer."
Now we were getting somewhere.
At least I have a starting point. After this post I am going to research campgrounds near wineries. Maybe I will even bring the dirt bikes.
But skydiving is out of the question.
-Lela
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9 comments:
Oh yeah, compromise can only be given when it's not really a compromise, right? ;)
yeah skydiving would definitely be out for me as well. the dirt bikes are iffy but the camping trip ummm does it include a fully stocked and functional RV lol
If you drink enough wine and beer maybe skydiving will be a little more appealing???
hmm? no?
Yeah...it was just a thought.
What about planning something that he would LOVE for him and a guy friend and then afterwards he would be still be on that "MY WIFE IS AWESOME" high that he'd happily do something you'd love next? You kill two birds that way. He gets to do something he loves but doesn't often do...with the guys so you don't have to get dirty/sweaty/peeyourselfromthefearofheights/drinkbeer and the reward is he's all frisky and willing to please as a big ole THANK YOU MA'AM
That romance stuff does take some work. But well worth it, right? Have fun on your weekend!
Those ways to spice up a marriage posts are always lame.
And you are a much more creative wife than I am - camping near wineries is genius!
Love this post! And FYI camping sex is totally hot. I say go for it.
I agree with Daffy, get drunk enough and it will seem like a great idea to skydive!
You should totally give skydiving a try. It's absolutely on my list, and get some sexy lingerie that fits. Then you get something new and fun AND he'll be surprised.
Camping near a winery seems like a great idea!
And, I like Daffy's idea, too.
Good luck, and I hope you find some spice. :)
Well that sord of backfired eh? Go with booze and you'll never lose ;)
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